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Roles Assessment

Roles You Have Played

Over the course of a lifetime, we step in and out of many roles — shaping others, being shaped ourselves. This assessment invites you to slow down, look back, and truly see the full arc of who you have been.

Before you begin — read this

This is not a quiz with right or wrong answers. It is a structured reflection — the kind of honest conversation you might have with a trusted mentor or coach. Take your time. There is no rush.

Each section includes guiding questions and examples to help you think beyond the obvious. You don't need a long list — even two or three honest, specific answers per section will be deeply valuable.

What you'll explore: the roles you've inhabited across your life, what you've accomplished (including the things that never made it onto a CV), the disappointments that shaped you, and what you've learned and overcome.

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Roles
Family, work, community & friendship
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Accomplishments
Tangible & intangible achievements
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Disappointments
What didn't go as hoped
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Lessons
What you've learned & overcome
Section 1 of 4

Roles You Have Played

We wear many hats across our lives — not just job titles, but the identities we inhabit in relationship to others. Select or add the roles that feel true for you. There are no wrong answers here.

💡 Coaching Prompt

Think about every sphere of your life — your family of origin, the family you may have built, your workplaces, your friendships, your community, your faith life. In each of those spaces, who were you to other people? What did they need you to be? What did you choose to be?

Some roles were given to you (eldest child, youngest sibling). Some you grew into (mentor, parent). Some you carried quietly (peacemaker, the strong one). All of them are valid.

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Family of Origin
Son / Daughter Eldest Sibling Middle Child Youngest Sibling Only Child Grandchild Nephew / Niece Cousin Peacemaker The Responsible One The Achiever Caregiver to Parent
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Family You Built or Joined
Husband / Wife Partner Father / Mother Stepparent Uncle / Aunt Grandparent Provider Nurturer Protector Co-parent
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Work & Career
Employee Leader / Manager Entrepreneur Mentor at Work Mentee / Apprentice Team Player Problem Solver Volunteer Creative / Innovator Mediator Expert / Specialist
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Community & Faith
Community Organiser Faith Leader Teacher / Coach Advocate Neighbour Fundraiser Role Model Servant Leader Activist
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Friendship & Social
Friend Confidant Counsellor Listener The Social Connector Encourager Challenger Support System Fun-bringer Accountability Partner
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Reflect on your roles
Which roles have defined you most? Which ones surprised you? Which have you outgrown?
Consider: Not all roles feel equal. Some were a gift; some felt like a burden. Some you stepped into willingly; others were thrust upon you. This is your space to reflect honestly — not just list, but feel.
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Section 2 of 4

What Have I Accomplished?

Accomplishments are not only degrees, titles, or promotions. Many of your most significant achievements will never appear on a CV — but they may be the ones that shaped you, and others, most profoundly.

💡 Coaching Prompt — Don't shortchange yourself

When people hear "what have you accomplished," they often freeze — especially if they don't have a shelf full of degrees or a corner office. This question is broader than that.

  • Have you ever helped someone through a crisis? That counts.
  • Did you survive something difficult and keep going? That counts.
  • Have you raised a child, maintained a long friendship, kept a marriage alive through hard seasons? That counts.
  • Have you changed a habit, faced a fear, or stood up for something that cost you? That absolutely counts.
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Tangible Accomplishments
Things you completed, built, or achieved that are visible to others
Examples: Qualifications earned, businesses started or grown, jobs achieved, financial goals reached, projects completed, things built or created, organisations joined or led, certifications earned.
Click a prompt to add it as a starting point →

A qualification I earned A role or position I reached Something I built or created A financial goal I reached A project I completed
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Intangible Accomplishments
The inner wins — things that changed you or others that no certificate records
Examples: Surviving a difficult season, breaking a harmful cycle in your family, keeping a friendship alive for decades, choosing forgiveness, finding your voice, rebuilding your confidence after a setback, being the person someone could always count on.
A fear I faced A difficult season I survived A relationship I invested in A habit or pattern I changed A moment I showed up for someone Something I let go of
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Section 3 of 4

What Were the Disappointments?

Disappointments are not failures — they are invitations to understand what mattered most to you, and where life asked you to grow. This section holds space for honesty, not shame.

💡 Coaching Prompt — Reframing disappointment

Disappointments often point to our deepest desires. If you're disappointed you didn't achieve something, it tells you how much it mattered. If a relationship fell apart, it speaks to how much you valued connection. The goal here is not to dwell in regret, but to understand what the disappointment is telling you about yourself.

  • Think across different areas: career, relationships, personal goals, faith, creativity.
  • Include things you did and regret, and things you wish you had done.
  • Note any patterns — do your disappointments cluster in a particular area of life?
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Disappointments I Have Carried
Things that didn't go as I hoped — in relationships, career, personal goals or life generally
The Disappointment
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What It Tells Me
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Section 4 of 4

What Have I Learned & Overcome?

This is where the story turns. Every role played, every accomplishment, every disappointment has been a teacher. What has life actually taught you — and what have you proven you can survive?

💡 Coaching Prompt — Your wisdom is earned

The things you've learned are not just intellectual knowledge — they are truths forged through experience. Wisdom earned through pain or effort is worth naming clearly.

  • What do you know about yourself now that you didn't know ten years ago?
  • What seasons or struggles did you come through that you weren't sure you would?
  • What beliefs or habits have you let go of, and what replaced them?
  • Who have you become through all of this?
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What I Have Learned
Wisdom, insights, and truths you now carry
About myself About relationships About work and purpose About what I value most About failure and resilience About God or meaning
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What I Have Overcome
Seasons, struggles, or obstacles you came through
Prompt: Think about the hardest chapters of your life. You are still here. What did you survive? What did you face that you thought might break you — and what did it reveal about your strength?
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⚑ Key Issues

Did any themes or unresolved tensions surface during this exercise? Note them here to add to your Key Issues list — these are often the starting points for the most meaningful mentoring conversations.

Your Reflection Summary

A record of the roles you've played, what you've built, what you've carried, and what you've learned.

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Roles You Have Played
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Accomplishments
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Disappointments & What They Reveal
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Lessons Learned & Overcome

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